What's G&R all about?

In China, your baby may be placed in your arms for the very first time in your hotel room...or in a small government office...or at the orphanage. Based on what I've read, there usually isn't a lot of ceremony (who cares, really...all that matters is that you get your sweet baby). But in Vietnam, there's a ceremony called Giving and Receiving (G&R for short). I thought you might enjoy reading about G&R from another family who's been there, done that:

G&Rs vary greatly from province to province. Some ceremonies are short and matter of fact; others are more elaborate and emotional. The overwhelming consensus that I have found, though, is that regardless of your style of G&R, it is an extremely unique and unforgettable experience. Parents sign their name in the big adoption book, official papers are signed and many words are spoken.

We were the only family at our G&R and were made to feel very welcome. Refreshments (beer, Fanta, fruit and candies) were put out for us on this occasion. Regardless of how weak a stomach you have, please partake in what they offer; it would be rude to refuse, especially at such an important and official event.

Our G&R went smoothly except for one little hiccup. The man leading our ceremony asked us a question through our translator and we couldn’t understand her, so our agency director repeated the question very softly so as not to be rude. He was asking us if we wanted to change our minds about the adoption! Of course we quickly and loudly replied “NO!” He asked us to return to Viet Nam one day with our daughter; which I truly hope that we will.

It was a very quick, overwhelming experience that was over before we even realized what was happening. It was not the emotional experience that I was expecting. This was probably due to the fast pace of the whole day, the language/translation barrier and the pure shock that we actually were given this sweet little baby and we were getting to take her home!

The Giving and Receiving Ceremony is something that binds us Viet Nam adoptive parents. It is an experience unlike any other and really helps to cement you to the country. I appreciate that fact that the country of Viet Nam makes a point to take the time and formality to officially wish each of their children well and celebrate their new families.

Sounds pretty amazing, huh?!?!